All speech…is a dead language, until it finds a willing and prepared hearer-Robert Louis Stevenson

A lot of people say a lot of things.  Some say more than others, and some do not know how to shut their mouths at all.  This can especially be true when an opportunity arises to help someone through a problem.  Whether in the context of friendship or in a more formal counseling setting, the temptation is there to talk instead of listen.  If there is one thing I have learned in my 42 years on this earth, it is that words are just words until two people really connect. 

It is important to build a relationship based on trust and on respect before advice will be taken seriously.  Personally, I will not hear what anyone says to me unless I feel like they care and they are being real with me.  If I feel a person is acting like they know everything and like they are better than me, then even if their advice is sound I probably am not going to hear it. 

It is true that unless a person feels love her ears do not work!  Until a person feels cared for she cannot hear and begin to rethink any stinking thinking that is holding her back.  Until a person feels that his concerns are not falling on deaf ears, he is unable to hear any words spoken, no matter how well-intentioned.  Being a know-it-all will not incite me to hear your words or act on your advice. 



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